Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Regrets...to Have or not to Have!

Hi...Having a rough day today and not really sure words are required!  At least not my words.

So...when I am in a bit of a funk...I like to find inspiration in other's words.  Just to relieve the daily pressure of spilling my fluff ...I decided to do that very thing...turn to someone elses words.

Things You'll Regret When You're Old:

Adapted from an article written by Mike Spohr,  BuzzFeed Staff 
1. Not traveling when you had the chance.
Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

2. Not learning another language.
You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

3. Staying in a bad relationship.

No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

4. Forgoing sunscreen.

Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians or sports teams.
“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Or, ‘the Jets will be in the Super Bowl again and I will go then’.

6. Being scared to do things and lacking the self confidence to go for it.
Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of? I was as good as anyone else, I just thought I wasn’t.

7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.
Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done. Head off older age health problems now. Get in shape and stay in shape.

8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.
Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

9. Not quitting a terrible job.

Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 miserable years in a job you never liked or were happy with.

10. Not trying harder in school.

It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Get educated. Take it seriously or end up in a $20,000 per year job supplemented by food stamps and Medicaid. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true. You wont ever get any better advice than you will from your parents.

14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly. Life isn’t all about you.

15. Caring too much about what other people think.

In 20 years you won’t give a rip about any of those people you once worried so much about.

16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine. Don’t let helping others hold you back.

17. Not moving on fast enough.

Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time. Look forward and move on. Wallowing is a waste of time and energy and is unhealthy.

18. Holding grudges.

What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

19. Not standing up for yourself.

Old people don’t take crap from anyone. Neither should you.

20. Not volunteering enough.

Do what you can when you can for who you can. Nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness.

21. Neglecting your teeth.
Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

23. Working too much.

No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.

Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing. Learn to live in the moment without thinking about the next one.

26. Failing to finish what you start (especially educational pursuits).

“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

You will go to parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.
Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

30. Not playing with your kids enough.

When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

31. Never taking a big risk.

Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.

Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

33. Worrying too much.

As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

34. Getting caught up in needless drama or in someone else’s drama.

Who needs it? It ends up sucking the life out of you and wasting precious time.

35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

36. Never performing in front of others.

This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

37. Not being grateful sooner.

It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

I am not too big on regrets...everybody's got em...though some don't like to admit it!  I think the key for me is not to LIVE in regret..

"Regrets...I've had a few...but then again...too few to mention" (google it) Chuckle!!!

Truthfully...I kinda half-assed read the above the first time I received the email.  Then...In a moment of shirking my responsibilities...I read this more thoroughly.

Some made me think...Some made me smile...Some made me think about amending my "Bucket List"....
Some...Well,some I need to re-read and apply to my life...

I am a living example of the consequences of #7...I could use some work on #15...#29 puts a knot in my stomach and #33 worries me...:)

But..it is never too late...I am learning to live that!  Today is a Battle...but tomorrow may be a Victory!

God Bless you all!!!

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